Post by: Vidhi Shah
Stepping head-first into a new year? A fresh year brings with itself various new experiences, successes. A change of academics, faculty, social environment! Academics- we'll wade through that. Faculty- can handle that too! Social Environment- that's where the hesitation sets in. Getting adapted into a new, socially averse environment takes more than just time. The key is not to fit in. It's rather to stand out and get accepted as you are!
So, welcoming the new academic year, here are some tips (as I like to call them) that aim to help you get settled just a bit better!
Don't be afraid to go to them first and initiate a conversation. Make small talk, even just a simple greeting can be a great start. Give a small smile to that person you see in the lift everyday. Make small talk in the long canteen line! Taking the first step might put you up as a kind and confident person. This will make you stand out and believe me, it'll encourage them to come talk to you the next time. So, take the first step and get going!!!
#2 Be Yourself:
Don't try to be someone you're not just to fit in. Be yourself, try to make yourself better, no doubt, but don't cross over the line to pretense. Be you!
As essential as it is to be yourself, the way you present yourself can go a long way too. No, I am not talking about looking beautiful or handsome (all the pure Bollywood definitions!!). Look the bets you can. That will give you confidence, and confidence may well be your best point!
#3 Don't Be Plugged In
Many of us tend to be plugged into technology to avoid the feeling of being left out. That's a reflex! But, having earphones plugged in, or appearing busy on your device: that gives an impression that you are either to busy or you'd rather keep to yourself.
Try to sit idle, look around the class. You don't have to appear lost, but keeping a window open is good!
#4 Choose your Friends
Sometimes being a new one can be too awkward, hence leading to a feeling to talk to all the available people. That can save you loneliness for a couple of days, but it is imperative to choose a friend that has the ability to see above your flaws and not just for your virtues.
Choosing someone who likes to degrade you might make you the center of attraction, but for all the wrong reasons. Hence, befriend wisely. Not being judge-mental, but wise.
These tips can do so long as to help you, but at the end, it's just you.
So, be the best version of you and go on socializing!!